and here to your left we see society’s impossible to obtain standards for women
this makes me sick
yall people is fucked up
GUYS PLEASE SOMEONE LOOK UP emilianofb1 i think its the same person who was harassing the girl in my last post
I’m not a hoarder, depressed, or physically disabled, either; this is just what happens when you’re a slob with ADD, too much stuff, and not enough storage space. T_T
I have gotten it clean in the recent past, though! It just… has yet to stick. I keep trying (although having my first ever full-time job throws yet another wrench into the works).
I think this photoset makes a really important point: everyone is starting from somewhere different. Your “after” may look like someone else’s “before.” Someone else’s “before” may look like what you aspire to. And that’s totally fine. Your goal should always be to make your living space better for you, not to compete with or feel discouraged by where anyone else is at in the process.
Not everyone submits before and afters, so I can promise you that there are people reading this whose “befores” look just like yours. I’ve consulted on helping with spaces that the owners were too embarrassed to post pictures of. Everyone is at a different stage in the process. Don’t use other people as a measure of your progress. That’s why I love before and afters; it shows the improvement in your own space due to your own efforts.
Yup. I am one and all of them together.
For some reason the OP didn’t bother to include a source (??? Why would you do that, why would you post something cool and then not give anyone a way to support the maker), but it appears to be Marty Maker Jewelry on Etsy, who has a whole lot more really cool shit.
(SO MANY EARCUFFS. A blessing for the piercing-less!)
I know where I want a birthday present from~
MY BIRTHDAY’S IN FEBRUARY
Fat politics are near and dear to my heart, not only because I’m quite the fatty myself, but also because all body inequality has a lasting effect on every single person involved.When we hate one type of body, we start to hate them all. We compare and critique, hating our failures and then hating others who appear to be more successful. Then we start to hate those who are failing more than us so that we don’t feel so bad about those guys that we hate because they’re succeeding! Hate. Hate. Hate. It’s a lot of hate, and it’s vicious. VICIOUS I tell you!And it goes oh so much deeper than that. Body hate is internalized at a very young age; killing our sense of self-esteem and teaching us that we must change in order to be okay.Guess what?81% of 10 year olds are afraid of being fat. And they’re more afraid of fat than they are of cancer, war, or losing both of their parents.Because of this, a survey of girls 9-10 years old showed that 40% of them have already tried to lose weight. Body image is closely linked to self-esteem and low self-esteem in adolescents can lead to eating disorders, early unsafe sexual activity, substance use, and suicidal thoughts.95% of people with eating disorders are between the ages of 12 and 25. Certain eating disorders have a 6x higher mortality rate. Low self-esteem is closely linked to depression and over 60 Americans commit suicide everyday due to this diagnosis. Approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies, and only 4% would openly call themselves beautiful.And it’s all for naught.It’s all for nothing, y’all. There is no truth in the lie that certain bodies are good and certain bodies are bad. All bodies just are and whatever that looks like is okay. Not only okay, but perfect, I would say!The reality is that everything we believe about body worth is wrong. We’ve learned to hate certain shapes and sizes because of American history and the economic story hidden within. In “Why We’ve Learned to Hate Ourselves”, I talk about the organization of class systems, the creation of Patriarchy, Tuberculosis, WWII, and newly independent housewives. ALL of these things have been building blocks for the best business scheme in history. We have been given an idyllic body that is presented as gospel; one that 95% of women in this country are not born with, and then we are told that we must somehow achieve this impossible physique. Preferably by attempting to purchase perfection through creams, diet pills, surgeries, laser treatments, special cereals, and expensive meal replacements.We buy all of these things so that we can somehow, mayyyyyybe someway become something that, yeah… we will never be. I will never become the worlds definition of perfection. Most of my friends around me won’t either. In fact, the large majority of women will never achieve the ideal female figure that we’re taught to worship. Ever. And so, with failure hanging heavily around our necks, we stunt our opportunities, relationships and quality of life.Though this is need not be, it currently it is and affects us all.While body hate leaves no person unscathed, there is a group that it sure does like to hang out with an awful lot… The Fatties.
Those Fatties, I’ll tell you what. They exist solely to flaunt themselves as a repulsive and diabolic mockery of what bodies are supposed to be. HOW DARE THEY TAKE UP SPACE ON THIS PLANET.
Are ya still with me?I say this facetiously of course, but know that those few sentences above resonate for more people than you care to count. And this is why we’re here today.I loved the Feminist autocompletion series, and I am well versed in what the internet has to offer when you type in things like feminism, sluts, gender equality and other supposedly controversial words. I personally spend a lot of time researching body image related subjects and so I’m also aware of what gems pop up when you type in something like, say, “fat people”.I may be used to reading this kinda junk by now, but that doesn’t make it any less alarming when the top searches for fat people include things like: fat people are disgusting, don’t have feelings, deserve to be bullied, and should die. This immense hatred baffles me; a persons body shape is so benign that it only affects those who inhabit it. Yet, it is socially acceptable to hate, loathe, harass, antagonize, persecute and bully a person based on a clothing size.If you’re needing a reminder of what bullying is, here’s a quick gist:So, real talk.The reality is that fat shame, hate, and oppression is THE most encouraged form of bullying that we face today. It is not only highly prevalent, but it is cheered on by the majority that believes that larger bodies are inherently wrong. This is aided and abetted by all media; both in entertainment material and advertising. In fact, it’s quite UN-popular to stand in favor of fat acceptance, and god forbid you preach of fat love.
We have a long way to go.There are shelves of books dedicated to why this is (and we don’t have the space to explore that entire concept in one post) but lets be sure to remember this: we have been conditioned to loathe and fear a fat body. We are not born a body bigot, we learn it. We absorb lucrative lies and judge others (and ourselves) based on this made-up law of superficial worth.Okay, but lets say that I’m wrong (I’m not) and that bigger bodies are bad (definitely not) because by having them you’ve somehow failed (you haven’t). Okay, say all those things have a grain of truth, and fat is indeed some sort of social failure. This is still not reason enough to hate, hurt, and bully another human being. Especially when the subject of contention is something that has nothing to do with you or anyone else. No excuse.One of my favorite quotes is from Ragen Chastain who write at Dances with Fat and she says:"Fat people have the right to exist in fat bodies regardless of how we got fat, what being fat means, or if we could be thin through some means – however easy or difficult.There are no other valid opinions on this.We have the right to exist without shaming, bullying or stigmatization, period.”Can I get an AMEN?All this fat hate has gotta stop.As long as we continue to demonize and degrade one body type, we will never reach true body acceptance as a society. And until we reach true body acceptance as a society, we will continue to see low self-esteem, depression, eating disorders, sabotaged relationships, employment inequality, sky high suicide rates, and all sorts of other social infirmities. No more please. No more.Every body is a perfect body. There ain’t no wrong or “more right” way to be, and that’s a fact.
SO, YOU’RE INVITED TO MAKE YOUR OWN POSTER AND SHARE IT WITH THE WORLD!No need to include the Google autocomplete (unless you want to of course), but feel free to make a poster with your OWN slogan that challenges weight hate and size discrimination! Whatever speaks true to you, make it a poster and share it on The Militant Baker’s Facebook! I’ll be making a photo album to showcase them all and share with the entire world!
Hop to it!Social revolution awaits!
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[I]t’s impossible to see a world where we keep libraries open simply to pretend they still serve a purpose for which they no longer serve."
Well, white dude with I’m guessing considerable stock in Google, is the library just there for your needs or purposes?
Maybe you enjoyed your exercise in wordplay and making points already made. But what was your point again? Books make libraries so without books libraries aren’t libraries? Books look different so libraries can’t be libraries? Libraries look different so libraries can’t be libraries? You don’t need libraries for books so we don’t need libraries? I’m sorry, what?
Oh but wait, we’re pretending? Pretending what? Pretending there’s an access divide? Pretending there’s a digital divide? Pretending information illiteracy? Pretending folks lack job skills? Pretending college students need help with citation (BAHA HAHAHAHAHHA)? Did I get a Masters in Pretending? I MEAN I DO HAVE A GREAT IMAGINATION SO I PROBS GOT STRAIGHT A’S. OR P’S FOR PRETENDING. I’m sorry, what?
Also read this from BeerBrarian - The End of “The End of Libraries”
On Sunday, October 14th, yet another “End of Libraries” piece appeared. Per usual, it was written by a white male with no use for libraries, because every single time this trope appears, that’s part of the author’s demographic background. Beyond that, it’s a crucial part of the author’s background. It is overwhelmingly affluent white men who argue that because they do not use something, it has no value for anyone. Libraries. The Supplemental Nutritional Assistance Program. Affordable health care. It’s the same argument.
"The internet has replaced the importance of libraries as a repository for knowledge." Ah, yes, because you can trust everything you read on the internet.
Republicans play this game all the time. “I don’t need it, therefore it’s not important and we should get rid of it.” I can vividly remember the last time I was in a library. It was three weeks ago. I needed to do research and the material I needed was not online. Not every book is completely indexed in Google Books. And yes, an ebook is cheaper and faster than buying a physical copy of a book - but it’s harder to skim through an ebook quickly, and the physical copy at the library costs you nothing (up front; tax dollars etc etc).
Like I said, I was at the library three weeks ago. It was around 4 pm on a Tuesday. And you know what? It was CROWDED. There was a packed sign-up sheet for the computers. Kids and parents abounded in the children’s section. Older people and teenagers read at the tables in the main area. I had to wait in line to check out my book.
Before that, I had spent a lot of quality time on my library’s website. I like to read both physical books and ebooks. My library does Kindle loans. OK, their website is a crappy government website, and it can be a little difficult to navigate, but it’s doable. I read books I probably couldn’t or wouldn’t pay full price for, AKA a big part of the purpose of a library.
Libraries are not useless in the digital age, and even more importantly, they aren’t all empty. Just because YOU, PERSONALLY do not need or use something doesn’t make it a charming but impractical relic of a long-forgotten age.
I work in a library. Here are some of the reasons people come to the library:
They want directions.
They want to collect food/garden/dog waste bags, all handed out free at libraries.
They want to print/photocopy/scan.
They want to access the internet, either on our computers or on their own, via the free wi-fi.
Often this is because they have to apply for benefits, housing or jobs through the official system which is only available online. If they haven’t internet at home, the library offers free internet access. Where else does that? Sometimes they aren’t computer literate, so they appreciate an environment where they can ask for help.
Maybe they’ll attend one of our free IT classes, ranging from the absolute basics to subjects such as Facebook, Office software, job hunting and how to use the Council’s Homesearch website. If they want something specific, such as how to use their own laptop or how to shop online, we can set up a one-to-one appointment, also for free.
Our study spaces are very popular. Often they are all taken by ten past nine, after we open at nine. The number of people who have asked me how much it costs and looked surprised when I explained that using the library space is free and doesn’t require you to be a member surprises me.
They want to read the newspapers or magazines the library buys (recently expanded with the launch of an emagazine service—I get to read SFX for free now, which is cool).
They’re researching their family tree and want to take advantage of the library’s subscription to Ancestry.
They want to consult the planning documents for a local development or the register of local voters.
They want to participate in a council consultation.
They may have come to seek advice from an agency that operates a drop-in session at the library, such as the Citizens’ Advice Bureau or the police.
They may be attending an event, either run by the library (an author talk, a book group, baby Rhymetime) or by an outside company who have rented the meeting rooms (theatre productions, ESOL classes, yoga). The library itself has regular events for babies, children, teenagers, adults, adults with mental health difficulties, adults learning English…
We have regular class visits from the local schools. We read them a story and they all choose a book. Sometimes we go to them. It was actually really lovely to see how many children came into the library, talking excitedly about the Summer Reading Challenge we came and told them in Assembly.
Children still look for books when they’re doing their homework, you know. Children who weren’t born at the time of the Millennium and have grown up with the internet.
People actually still read books. Over thirty thousand items were issued in my library last month, and while we certainly have DVDs, Blu-Rays, CDs, Talking Books, Language Courses, all those added together can’t be more than a couple of thousand.
Free books. I’m sorry, I am never over how wondrous that is. Thousands of books, free to borrow and read. (And for those incapable of making the journey to the library, we have a Housebound service.)
For all these reasons, we are really busy. Dozens of people join every day. Hundreds of people walk through the doors every day. Of course, there are people who don’t make use of libraries, who don’t need them. But really, someone who can’t remember the last time they went to the library can have no idea of the role they play.
Libraries are not irrelevant. Libraries are not cultural artifacts. Libraries are living and changing, a resource and a social space, free at the point of access, engaging the community, offering a wide range of services, accessible to all. And what other institution can you say that about? Libraries are important.
People go to the library for books. People go to the library for e-books. People go to the library for technology. People go to the library for human contact. People go to the library for educational and free programming for their children. People go to the library for fun. So learn your shit before opening your mouth. Maybe a librarian can point you in the way of the basics. (via inautumn-inkashmir)
Libraries for me mean a free climate controlled space, knitting patterns, and recipes. Also mine rents out DVDs and has a good sized selection of graphic novels, which really helps us keep our entertainment budget manageable. I only wish I lived within walking distance of mine, the library may be free but the bus sure isn’t.
Yeeeep. Libraries are still needed. I’m fortunate to live within walking distance of mine. I utilize it weekly. Last time I was there was Friday. I’d go there more often if the librarians weren’t horrible people. As it is, I do use the hold service on books I want and they travel from the one in Roseburg to my local one and I pick up the books and am gone. I think the library is the one place I go to the most out of everywhere.
And like, what about the fucking reference section? A library is basically the ONLY place you will find some of those books, unless you’re asble to afford to shell out 1000 dollars for a text. And a lot of information is ONLY in those books, or ONLY in books that exist only in physcal format, and are expensive/out of print. But there’s no way anybody could possibly want that information. RIght?
Like, the Dewey Decimal system books are still in copyright, so you only get the base information for it online, and thew books themselves are expensive as FUCK. The library was the only place I could ever find them.
giddygirlgumption and I took our kids to the library literally 3 hours ago. And it was the second time we’d been in three days. My daughters have been going to this library since they were 9 months old and newborn respectively. They attended storytime, they’ve poured through the children’s section. In fact, there’s a little teddy bear that stands about 2 1/2 feet tall that is post upright with welcoming arms when you get to the children’s floor (the entire basement). My daughters have been attending this library since they were shorter than this bear and they now tower over it. In fact, the older girl volunteered there this summer.
We’ve checked out music, dvds, books galore, done research and they’ve both learned the Scratch programming language in classes there. The library is part of our life, part of our normal. And we’re not alone when we go there.
Even if you think you can replace every single function of a library with something else, you shouldn’t. Why? Because a library is a place you can go, as an individual human being, and interact with other individual human beings, without feeling pressured to buy one single thing or spend one single cent (unless you have an overdue fine. Then you should really pay your fine). We have a rapidly dwindling number of those around.
Now I can’t stop picturing this version of Holmes & Watson. Like the Mary Russell books but with John and Mary’s daughter who just gets called “Watson Jr.” all the time. :D
HYDROCODONE MIDNIGHT THEATRE PART I FORGET, FIVE MAYBE: SHERLOCK AND WATSON.
Once upon a time there was no internet.
You kids know about this, sure. But you don’t really know.
There was no way to learn all the things you should have learned. And when you were alone, you were really really alone.
There was no info in the school library about sexuality or gender identity, about eating disorders and aspergers and depression and social anxiety, or anything to tell you that other people had these problems too, that it wasn’t just you being a fundamental failure as a human being.
If you weren’t living in a major metropolitan area there was no community for you. There was just church events and Wal-mart, and parties at people’s houses you weren’t invited to because everyone hated you, and driving around aimlessly on country roads, and that was your options for Saturday night, for every night. There was no goth club. There was no gay-straight alliance. There was no safe place for freaks and geeks except hiding in our houses not knowing how to find each other.
And maybe you got out of some hell-hole as soon as you were old enough, and even when you went somewhere better you found out that you never learned how to talk to people, you didn’t know how to go to a gay bar on your own or how to find an anime club or where you might learn how to play tabletop RPGs or any kind of social activity you would have any hope of being comfortable with, and now this prison of isolation you grew up in was going to last you the rest of your life.
Maybe the internet got here too late for you, and this hole in your heart was never going to be filled.
But that’s not going to happen to you kids. I’m glad.
The Internet age is actually GOOD
This is actually a lot of why I blog. For all the folks out there who resemble my younger self.
I reblogged this last night on my phone, but I’m doing it again this morning so the full text is there. I almost started crying because it described my teenagerhood so perfectly.
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